A furious mum has revealed how her parents refused to see their grandchildren unless they were dressed up in their nicest clothes.
In an anonymous post on Reddit, the woman explained that she and her parents have a strained relationship.
“My parents and I have spent some time apart,” she admitted.
“I stopped speaking to them around 2011, and we got back in touch in 2018 when I sent them invitations to my wedding.”
The woman said that her children, aged 11, seven and five, hadn’t seen their grandparents in some time due to current coronavirus restrictions.
Two weekends ago, she was able to see her parents as restrictions were lifted where she lives.
“I felt the meeting was fine,” she shared.
But afterwards, when she texted to arrange a meeting again the following weekend, they agreed “but the response was very curt, and I felt they might be upset with me,” she explained.
When she asked whether they were okay, they brushed her off and said the were fine.
“Fast forward to today, and we’re planning to meet up again tomorrow. I was confirming they were still good to meet and mum made some comment about making sure the kids put in an effort this time.
“I thought she was talking about their attitude so I called her to ask if my kids insulted her somehow but she said that she meant appearance.”
“She feels that last weekend, when my kids all showed up in trainers, jeans, and a hoodie, they were being disrespectful and not putting in the effort.
“I said ‘mum they’re kids for f**** sake,'” but her mum didn’t give in.
“Mum maintained that there was a certain level of respect accompanying clothing and them wearing anything less than smart-casual was disrespectful, considering that she and my dad, as well as my husband and I, put in the effort,” she wrote.
The woman added: “I refused to even let her finish half of her sentences, saying I wouldn’t make my kids dress up to see them.”
Her mum “became frustrated and ended the call.
“I then received a string of texts about how it would be nice if I could convince the kids to look nice when they see her, saying it’s not a lot to ask and it teaches good habits, and even if I wouldn’t do that, the absolute least I could have done was let her finish a sentence,” she shared.
“I said she should say something else then, and she said I was being very rude by not letting her have an opinion and shutting her down like I did.”
And now, her mum “expects an apology.”
The woman explained that her mum expects the kids to wear “smart-casual”, which is defined as “shirts with buttons OR trousers for the boys (not both at once) and a skirt OR nice top for my daughter.”
But the original poster thinks dressing this way is too much to ask for.
The woman asked users whether she was in the wrong for refusing to make her kids dress up and the majority of people were on her side.
One person said: “Your mother seems to think they’re dolls, not human beings.”
Another said: “If y’all were going out to a fancy restaurant that would be different but a close family visit? They should be allowed to be comfy as should all of you.”
While a third put: “She is correct that there are times where clothing and dressing up is a sign of respect.”
And someone else commented: “So she was upset cause your children were dressed up like children? What a terrifying concept.
“Better run out and get them little tailored suits and dresses as appropriate so that your parents will understand that they ‘put in effort.'”